Moods are symptoms. Don’t just react. Look under the surface and connect with the other person to solve or even prevent an outburst, tantrum, or other negative behavior.

I talked about this in a previous post, “Pain Is the Root Of Anger, and Why You Should Care” but today I’d like to amplify that by sharing the following post by Rebecca Thompson, M.S., MFT.

Her blog is about parenting, and this post of hers in particular reminded me of when my son was a toddler and he would routinely become annoying, fussy, and troublesome when he was tired. It was an irritating distraction for work-at-home parents. Of course the instantaneous reactionary impulse was to be short with him, tell him to stop being that way, even yell at him. But I wanted to love and help him, not hurt him. I found that all I had to do when he started acting badly, was realize that he had been awake for hours, and then pick him up and rock him on my shoulder. He felt the loving connection and quickly fell asleep. When he awoke, he was always able to behave much better.

For older kids too big to hold or too old for naps, a hug can be just as refreshing–like rebooting a computer which has clogged up and can’t function right.

For even older people or those you aren’t so personal with, look for a way to give a verbal hug. A kind word, compliment, or some acknowledgement that you are sympathetic.

Meeting and treating on a personal root level works with a person of any age—infant, toddler, teen, adult, and elderly. It can even work with animals.

Read Rebecca’s post: An Alternative View of Tantrums and Emotional Upsets

Or visit her website by clicking this image:





Lots of people line up for flu shots. Lots of other people are either afraid of the shots, or have had bad experiences after receiving a flu shot. Whatever you think about the flu, a shot can’t do anything about Colds and the many other infectious illnesses your child could pick up, suffer from, and give to you—especially if your child has a habit of putting his or her fingers into his or her mouth (and what small child isn’t born with such a habit?).

Let your kids touch stuff–that’s how they learn and grow.

But, help them laugh their way away from the habit of putting all those dirty fingers into their mouths, with this hilarious but realistic and memorable book, “A Bird Flew Over…Or, Why I WANT to Keep My Hands Out of My Mouth!!”

Use with babies, toddlers, or kids. Available from, Barnes & Noble, Rifll Publishing, Inc., or through any bookstore and most online booksellers.  (Hyperlinking feature not working at time of this post. Sorry.)

A Bird Flew Over...: ...OR, Why I WANT to Keep My Hands Out of My Mouth!! ISBN: 9781935710028

A Bird Flew Over...: ...OR, Why I WANT to Keep My Hands Out of My Mouth!! (my 3rd book)